I still recall the University of Washington freshman orientation keynote speech of five years ago, given by Professor David Salesin, where he urged students to exercise, socialize and intellectualize on a daily basis. If the message was good for the students, it was also good for their parents, I thought. I’ve tried to use his advice ever since. When I forego one of the three elements, the day feels incomplete.

We’ve been to many graduation ceremonies over the years. I’ve cried at each one, including Bothell High (twice!), University of California-Santa Barbara (UCSB), University of Washington and recently, Auburn University in Alabama. These proud times are definitely “Mommy Moments,” although, sometimes I think I’m the only Mommy in the audience taking notes when the keynote speakers give their address. I just want to savor every second of this important event and remember the relevant words coming from these wise men and women — words not only directed to the students, but useful to the older generation, as well.

Professor Walter Kohn, Nobel Prize winner in chemistry, spoke at the UCSB graduation. He polled many graduating seniors (an unscientific poll!) asking how students view their life and personal future. “Optimistically!” was the unanimous response. Pessimism prevailed, however, when students were asked if the world will be a better place with the next generation.

Professor Kohn challenged these grads, “Commit yourself to making a personal difference in the world!”

Good thought for all of us!

This spring, we attended commencement exercises at Auburn University, a school of deep south, East Coast tradition. As the keynote speaker began, I did my usual shuffling through my purse for paper and pen … and the crumpled Kleenex.

“The challenges of today are greater,” said Gen. Richard B. Myers.

In 1965 when Gen. Myers graduated from college, students faced the challenges of civil rights, the Vietnam War and the remainder of the Cold War.

Noting today’s challenges of protecting the environment, the petroleum crisis, poverty in the world, violent extremism and the threat that brings, he optimistically said, “Today’s students will be equally successful in facing their challenges.”

And with challenge, comes opportunity for leadership.

Gen. Myers, the retired 15th chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, military adviser to the President of the United States, Secretary of Defense and the National Security Council, knows something about leadership.

“Lead with integrity!” said Myers.

“Lead selflessly!” he continued, adding, “Serve something bigger than yourself,” Ask Martin Luther King’s question, “What are you doing for others?”

The general gave the example of teachers and professors who offer their knowledge to others, without making the multi-millions in return.

“Lead with intelligence!” he said.

Myers asked the graduates to think critically and intelligently, although he admitted that this group wouldn’t have come this far without the “intelligence” factor in place.

He concluded his speech by saying, “Make the world a better place!” wished the graduates well, adding, “Today’s a great day.”

It was a short, to-the-point speech — I can imagine that generals are geared toward clarity and brevity — and words I’ll take to heart, if I ever pursue a leadership role.

Now to return to exercise, socialize and intellectualize on a daily basis! It’s good for the sanity.

Suzanne G. Beyer is a Bothell resident.